Cheating Spouse [part2]

Why do cheaters cheat? Psychologists atone most cheaters have an underlying reason rather than the superficial satisfaction of the flesh. Instead of focusing on what is the problem within the marriage, the look for somethings to replace that void. In truth, it is not replaced but rather concealed beneath it. When this issue is not addressed, they are prone to repeat the offense. No relationship can work if only one would be fighting for it. Both must make efforts to work on the problems.

Realize your faults.
People tend to overlook their own faults when others have done us wrong. However, realizing your own faults helps you understand your partner's perspective.

Take responsibility for your actions.
Cheater or not, both should take responsibility for every action that affected people around you. After all, you yourself did this. Cheating is a choice. So is staying faithful.

Do not blame each other.
It would only add to each your grievances. People make mistakes but that does not give us the right to rub it in their noses all the time.

Be honest and choose.
You've got to admit, lying is easier right? Especially if the truth would be hurting somebody. But it is inevitable. You should be honest of what path you're going to take. Are you gonna make amends and fight for the relationship? Are you letting go of what you have? Or are still confused on what you want? Be honest even if it hurts. It is all you can give anyway.

Give respect to their space.
Sometimes when we are hurt, we need to have time for ourselves. Also, when we are angry we lash out, say things we regret. Let them. They need to process everything in their own way. However, make your love and affection evident too.

It will be extremely difficult. You'd have good days. Ones that are filled with love as if nothing has changed. You'd also have bad days wherein you'll remember all the hurt and the betrayal. Forgiving is easy. Forgetting is a different matter. Nonetheless, if you have been cheated on, remember that you cannot control your partner's actions and decisions but you can control yours.